He asked me questions like, "Do you like ice cream? I like ice cream, momma said if I can be patient we can go for ice cream after we leave here." He was becoming very comfortable. One point during the visit, his mother had to fill out a document at financial aid so he sat with me and he and I played a game while we waited.
I respected his space when they first arrived because one, he was in a strange place and needed to know that his mother was protecting him and I was a stranger to him and didn't want to make him uncomfortable. Stephenson (2009) stated that sometimes you have to step back and watch as children communicate and use strategy to approach them when in conversation. I let him lead conversation so that he would feel comfortable. It was a great experience all around. Not a typical way to observe communication but he was communicating with his mother and myself and his curiosity kept him occupied and full of questions.
I believe the ultimate beauty of the experience is that I am African American and my student and her son where White and once he saw that his mother trusted me and talked to me and laughed with me he was also comfortable and the beauty of being different but treated with no difference because of the color of skin is a wonderful thing to witness, especially with children. I hope his time with me and talking to me and playing games with me is a memorable one for him.